"How is her house so clean? Mine has baby toys everywhere!”
“If only I had a better resting face like hers.”
“Am I doing the right thing as a Momma?"
“I wish my mom bun could be that cute.”
“I wonder what photo editing app she uses?"
“That bedroom! Amazing! Now I need white sheets and all new decorative pillows."
These are some of the thoughts that go through my head sometimes as I scroll through my social media feeds and see the endless beautiful photos. Now, don’t get me wrong I absolutely love seeing these beautiful images and getting a peek into the lives of others. I drool over the beautiful home decor, amazing plated and deliciously looking food, creative DIY’s, and admire the moms who seem to have it all together, or the fitness coach who works out and eats healthy more in one day than I have probably done in a month (if we are really being honest let’s make that plural and say months).
I love social media and think it's a great tool to connect with family and friends. It’s an easy way to quickly put a little bit of happiness and laughter in your life, to get encouragement and support from others, and it offers a chance to meet new people and build a community of friends that help encourage you and make you a better YOU.
On the flip side of that, social media has it’s dark side that creates an illusion for others. It can cause you to compare yourself to others, even strangers you have never met before. It can make you wish you had things you didn’t. It can cause you to ask yourself ridiculous things like, “How does she have it all together? How is their life so perfect? How did they get to be so lucky? How come my child isn’t walking at 8 months too?” This nonsense causes you to forget the blessings right in front of you or the reality that life isn’t perfect for anyone.
With all of that said, it’s important to remember that as we scroll through our feeds and look at those beautiful imperfect squares, we only see a little peek of someone’s life. Of course we choose to post the beautiful parts of our lives. Those are the things that brighten our day. It’s just like decorating the walls in your house with gorgeous photos. No one wants to hang the "not so good" ones. The ones that just didn’t make the cut. And like my momma always said, “There is no need in airing out your dirty laundry for the world to see”. We might think or assume that someone has a perfect life and has it all together, but keep in mind that there are always those crazy chaotic things that go on behind the scenes. Things like couches and kitchen tables being used as a resting spot for laundry that has been folded for days, sleepless nights, screaming babies, angry teenagers, sinks filled with dirty dishes, crib sheets strategically covered with blankets and stuffed animals to hide baby spit up (guilty of this), bills piled sky high, closets used to hide the messes that didn’t get cleaned up before the guests came over, furniture rearranged just to get that perfect “natural light” for a “perfect” photo. The truth is life isn’t perfect. Nope! Not at all! But it is one big beautiful mess!
So why not show off our beautiful messes? What is your life really like? What is going on behind your feed? This is where it gets fun! I’ve teamed up with some of my favorite bloggers and instagrammers and we are going to show you what is happening behind our feed and we want you to join in.
Who: Everyone! We want to see everyone on board! Share this post and tell your friends!
What: We challenge you to post a picture that doesn’t fit your feed, shows something you don’t want to show, BE VULNERABLE, help other women realise that imperfection is normal and beautiful. So what your hair is messy! So what your living room is full of baby toys! So what you have puke on your shirt! THAT IS REAL LIFE! Show your beautiful mess! Use the hashtag: #BehindTheFeed
When: We are going to kick this off on June 8, so take the next 2 weeks to spread the word and get some pictures ready!
Where: Instagram, twitter, facebook, every where!
Why: Inspire and be inspired. Support other women. Let’s do this.
If you have any questions or feel particularly inspired and want to really get involved, shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org! I’m so excited about this and hope that you join in on the fun as well!
Head on over to Always Alexie to find out more about the movement.
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