Yesterday, I went to Target for some retail therapy. I walked in and noticed the dollar spot was very bare so I moved on to the bathing suits. I thought, what the heck lets give these Mommy bathing suits a try. Of course I picked up only black bathing suits, and some black and cream ones that had lines going in every direction, hoping it would hide this baby pouch I still have from carrying Ava.
I headed to the dressing room only to find out that the "family room" that I needed was occupied with a teenage girl who had her mom and grandma waiting outside. Sure, there were 15 other dressing rooms opened that I COULDN'T fit into. So I waited. Luckily, the mother realized her mistake. She was super sweet and apologized, and had her daughter moved to another room. She said it had been a while since her kids were little and didn't realize what she did. She said, "Lesson learned."
I headed in and told Ava, "Here we go! Let's see what this looks like." It wasn't horrible but I also didn't look like the stick figured mom they had modeling the bathing suit on the poster next to it. I know I am ready to retire my bikini and fit into a "mom" bathing suit but just not THAT ready yet. So I decided I will keep working on getting healthy and try again later.
After that I decided to go look for Ava a bathing suit which was soooo much more fun! Long story short I found a cute bathing suit for her. Then I started to think about diapers and I didn't really know how all of that worked so I reached out to some of my followers on social media. I posted a picture of the bathing suit with this caption:
"Well momma wasn't in the mood for a bathing suit but Ava was! Does she wear a diaper underneath? I have no clue."
And that's when it started. People commented which is what I wanted. I wanted to know what people preferred and wanted them to share their experiences and that's exactly what they did which I am so grateful for. I am sure that my close friends and people who have been following me for a while just laughed about it, and thought oh my! Some probably even said, "Bless her heart." But then there is always that one who stretches it a little too far and sends a not so nice personal message. The one who thinks you are crazy, or have no clue what you are doing as a mom (which technically I DID write I have no clue). But let's be real ladies this is my first baby. I figured babies have to wear some sort of a diaper but I didn't know how all that works with a bathing suit. I know no one wants little floaters in their pool. Pee...yea well we all know people pee in the water. It was more to get Mommas talking about how the whole diaper thing works.
I would like to say that what others think didn't bother me and it doesn't really matter. But I am human. So I will be completely honest and say that I have spent my morning wishing I took longer to think about what I was saying in my post. Wondering if other moms think I am crazy.
I know that choosing to blog I opened myself up to this. But anyone who uses social media opens themselves up to judgement whether you are a mom, fitness coach, crafter, teenager, teacher, community leader, worship leader, singer, the list goes. We are all just doing life and choosing to let the world in.
When it comes to mother hood there are a ton of things I don't have a clue about and I shouldn't. I am a first time mom. When it comes being a blogger I am horrible at writing. I am the worse at grammatical errors and I am extremely exclamation mark happy! Incase you didn't notice!!! Oh and let's not talk about commas. I have no clue where to put commas. I love letting the world in on my life and this journey I am on. Blogging allows me to journal my life as a wife, mom and a baker while encouraging and helping others. It also allows me to seek advice from others. I love blogging and the friends that I have made since I have started. I love all the stories my followers have shared and the advice they have given.
I guess I am writing all of this to say, let us remember to play nice, give each other a break, laugh things off, and enjoy life. As moms we talk about being judged but yet we are sometimes the most judgmental (I am guilty of it too). Let's stop being so critical of one another, and support each other!
Happy Sunday FUNday! Ava has her first playdate today!
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